Things have been a little stressful over the last month or so, firstly my mother has been very ill with Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD), work is struggling to land new contracts and some of the contracts we have are getting to be overspent, my son has not paid his rent (so we had to step in to help out), the car has broken down again and I am still working in Bristol but living in Wales so have to spend the week away from my family.
My mother will not give up smoking, which I am sure will only make her condition worse and not better. I feel sure that if she gave up smoking the quality of her life would improve no end but they have such a hook into her I do not think she will ever give up; this is so sad that it is painful. We would visit more often that is for sure, we don’t go to see her very often as the smell of cigarettes makes us all feel sick so we meet up with her for a couple of hours at a time, but this is not really enough, my mother is mission out on so much with my daughter and sons. If I had one wish it would be for my mother to stop smoking. Sadly, this will not happen and so we all miss out.
As for work, that is so stressful, little work and what we have we are overspent on. I have been made redundant before and I am now worrying about that. There is always a promise of new contracts but they never seem to be signed. This will put our move to Bristol in doubt as if there is no job we will not be able to get a mortgage.
My son not paying his rent is now turning into a regular event, I do not think he is very good at managing his money and neither is he very good at lying to cover this fact up. This will have to change as he will be moving into a new house with his girlfriend next month in anticipation of their baby arriving later in the year. The normal procedure for when he fails to pay his rent is that we stop hearing from him for a week or two then his landlord gets in touch to let us know that his rent is late. We try to get in touch with him to find out what is going on but all our calls, texts and Facebook messages get ignored, we end up paying the rent, a week later he gets in touch as if nothing has happened just full of apologies. Well next month is the last of our guarantor agreement with his landlord and he will have to look after himself, taking responsibility for his own actions or lack of actions from now on. Not that I think we will abandon him but we will not be legally responsible for his problems.
I do not know why he lies to cover up the fact that he has not paid his rent. Any ideas? I keep saying to my wife that in life we all make choices, and he has chosen to lie to us about this (and one or two other things). I understand that he will be embarrassed about messing up but then lying to cover it up and protect himself just insults and hurts us.
The car is proving to be a nightmare. We have learnt the lesson not to buy a car from a car superstore place that is for sure. The two cars we have bought from superstores have both had major problems with them. This is the second time that this car has broken down. We have taken it to an excellent garage in Haverfordwest, Runway Autos, they are a family run business and are proving to be very good at communicating with us, I do hope that they are able to fix the car. The up side to this is that we have had to walk everywhere for shopping, picking up our daughter from school etc. We have walked 38,000 steps in two and half days! At this rate my belly will disappear and I will be able to tick off one of the items on my bucket list.
The move to Bristol is proving to be a long and painful experience. Our estate agent is about as communicative as a plank of wood. Had better conversations with the wall than these people. So disappointing. But on the bright side we have now worked out how, when we sell the house, we will be able to move.
We had a great weekend in Bristol the weekend before last, eating at Za Za Bazaar, which is turning into a Bristol tradition for us now, particularly the sushi bar which takes a hammering whenever we go there. We saw some amazing scenes in the city centre and had the best coffee EVER when we stopped off at a random café for a drink and a quick cake. We were so impressed we took selfies with the coffee!